As men are regarded as the leaders in society, they must constantly assess how their current actions and behaviours affect those around them. 

When a man strives to create success in his everyday life and environment, he may stop to ask himself, “How can I serve a greater purpose in society?”.

Being a modern-day gentleman transforms your current set of behaviours and actions, as you maintain awareness of how your actions influence the world around you.

A modern-day gentleman is a newly evolved way of being for men. As past behaviours are phased out and new behaviours are accepted, instinct and intuition are now coming into harmony, to serve society and its inhabitants better. This means it is time to redefine what it means to be a modern-day gentleman in 2023.

He is confident, not arrogant.

Confidence is a trait that involves knowing your greatness and abilities, and positively expressing them in a way that supports and uplifts others. 

Arrogance involves boasting about your abilities and skills, and using them to get ahead while failing to consider the impact on others. The need to compete aggressively and dominate others, has led to problematic issues for men and creates more division than unity.

He is a natural protector.

A modern-day gentleman does not exert control over others. Instead, his instinct is to protect. When mixed with aggression, any control can lead to domestic or child abuse, in which the victim loses their entire sense of self. 

Since women are the child-bearers of society, men must use their instinct to keep women and children out of harm’s way. He must protect the current generation and ensure that future generations adopt behaviours beneficial to humanity.

He maintains a high level of social awareness.

To maintain social awareness is to have empathy and consideration for others. Not only is a socially aware man able to understand the emotions of others, but he also considers the impact of his actions on others. 

When men strive towards a goal, it can be easy to act selfishly. To avoid further detrimental effects on society, men must work together cohesively, and step outside their narrow view of the world into a broader collective view. 

He takes pride in his appearance.

A modern-day gentleman is also conscious of his outward appearance, and how he presents himself to the world. 

Whether he is dressing up for a special occasion, such as an evening cocktail party or fixing broken furniture around the home, he knows how to dress in attire that is appropriate for the event. He also maintains good hygiene by showering daily, keeping his hairstyle trim and neat, and has good oral health. 

He is responsive, not reactive.

A responsive man goes about his actions with careful thought and awareness. A reactive man is driven by emotion, and his behaviour is erratic.

A man who possesses unwavering strength, chooses to respond to situations rather than react with a knee-jerk response. A man decides to maintain his power from within, rather than hand over his ability to a position external to him.

He maintains strict boundaries.

Boundaries form when a man has a deep sense of who he is. When a modern-day gentleman maintains firm boundaries, and makes those boundaries known to others, he remains utterly faithful to his values.

A modern-day gentleman is not an overly agreeable man, nor is he a people pleaser. His boundaries do not change based on thoughts, judgement, and opinions, nor does he allow others to overstep his boundaries.

In summary

To function better and grow as a society, men must adopt new behaviours that align with modern-day values, while keeping intact past traditional behaviours that still serve a place in today’s world.

Reflecting on your actions and behaviours impacts others and strives to transform those actions and behaviours positively. You are contributing to change on an inner level and a collective level. 

By embodying the traits of a modern-day gentleman, you will become more in tune with your instinct and intuition. You will feel more fulfilled as you see the positive changes ripple out into the world around you.